Music preferences are so personal that we make no attempt at A Music Plus to determine “good” or “bad” music. We do not try to educate our clients about music. We only play the music that our clients ask to hear. With their permission, we will supplement their choices with selections we feel will appropriately compliment their event.
Live bands are generally limited to the songs they carry in their repertoire. With wedding DJs the choices are much more varied. Many clients aren’t sure what should be played at their event, and with that, here are some things to consider.
What do you want the music at your event to do? Is the purpose of the music to provide a format for dancing, to provide ambience, to set a mood or enhance the moment? Determining what you want the music to do will help you decide what should be played.
How important is it to you that your guests dance? This is a huge issue at wedding receptions. We sometimes get clients whose primary concern in selecting music is to demonstrate to their friends and families how eclectic or eccentric their music tastes have become. While we will certainly help them accomplish that goal, we try to warn them not to be shocked if most of their guests don’t recognize the music and, therefore, choose not to dance. Again, we make no judgment here as to this being right or wrong, it is just how it is. Most people tend to dance when they feel comfortable, and that usually requires recognizing the music.
How much music should we choose, and how much should we let the DJ choose? Again, this is up to you, but here’s an analogy. You’ve asked the chef to prepare a wonderful meal for everyone. You’ve told him/her what you like. Now, do you stand over his/her shoulder and direct the preparation of the food? What spices to use, what temperature to cook the food at, which pots and pans to use, what order to prepare the food in, etc.? Providing music for dancing is similar. The DJ should know what you like and dislike and try to play music accordingly. But micro-managing the DJ at your event tends to take away much of your enjoyment of the party and makes a long night for everybody. On the other hand…
What if the DJ is off track with music selection at our event? We think of performing at an event much like waiting tables in a fine restaurant. A great DJ will do their best to provide exactly what you want, but they cannot know you want something different unless you say so. If your soup is cold, the finest waiter will not know unless you tell him. If you want the music selection at any particular time tweaked, tell the DJ so they can adjust.
Do we have to hear the same old songs that we hear at most weddings? Of course not. This is your day and you should have total control of the music played. On the other hand, songs that fall under the category of “popular music” are called “popular” for a reason. Popular songs like YMCA, Loveshack, the Electric Slide, for instance…these are songs that make some people cringe, while others flock to the dance floor. You need to decide what matters most. If hearing a particular song or artist will irk you at your event, you should tell us in advance. If you’ll be too busy visiting with guests to notice or care, and the song has your guests dancing end enjoying themselves, then you might be best served to not worry about it.
Should we allow the DJ to take guests requests? This is up to you. We cannot possibly know you and your guests as well as you do. Sometimes guests come up with some good and fun ideas for music selections. The DJ will always use discretion, anyway, so you shouldn’t worry about the DJ playing inappropriate songs. Unless you are concerned about the music your guests might request, or you want the DJ to play from your list only, it is generally okay to let guests make requests.
Again, with A Music Plus, you have total control of the music played. Be as specific or general as you like in outlining for us what you want to hear (and not hear). With that in mind, here are some options for providing us with your preferences.
Some choices for choosing music at your event:
Do nothing, allowing the DJ to choose all the music.This is fine if you have seen us before and know you will like our selections, or if you do not have the time to choose music. Our DJs are at events every week and can quickly determine the kind of music that you and your guests will enjoy. Additionally, our DJs bring a wide variety of all styles of popular music so that they can adjust to your preferences and those of your guests accordingly.
Choose a few songs and/or artists you most enjoy. This is what most clients choose to do. This gives your DJ a clear indication of some of the music that is important to you, while allowing them to take guest requests and play songs that they know from experience will please your guests.
Choose several songs and artists and identify a list of “Do Not Play” songs and/or artists, as well as possibly forbidding the playing of guest requests. If you have the time and inclination, this option gives you more control of the music played at your event. While more time consuming on your end, it can help you feel that you have more say in what is or is not played.
Provide a list of music choices for the DJ, requiring that only songs on that list be played unless you specify otherwise at the event. This option ensures that you will not hear a song at your event that you have not approved, but is somewhat restrictive and eliminates guest choices as an option for the DJ.
Create the list of music you want played, in order, and require the DJ stick to it. While we will happily do this for you, it is not recommended. Making such a list requires a great deal of time and effort on your part. Additionally, it cannot account for or allow flexibility for what may be happening at your event at any given time.
Another consideration is that the more time and effort you put into creating lists and planning music, the more concerned you may be about those lists during your event. At weddings in particular, some couples have lamented that they were too worried about whether or not their efforts were being followed rather than enjoying the moment with their family and friends. Ultimately, it is your event and we are happy to work with you in planning the music to what ever degree you want. Please do not hesitate to make us aware of your special music needs. We will gladly accommodate them.